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Joyce Brothers

Dr. Joyce Brothers in 1957
Born Joyce Diane Bauer
October 20, 1927 (1927-10-20) (age 82)
New York City, New York, U.S.
Occupation Psychologist
Advice columnist
Writer
Actress
Years active 1955—present
Spouse(s) Dr. Milton Brothers (1949-1989) (his death)

Joyce Brothers (born October 20, 1927) is an American psychologist and advice columnist, publishing a daily syndicated newspaper column since 1960. She is professionally known as Dr. Joyce Brothers.

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Biography

Personal life

Brothers was born Joyce Diane Bauer in New York City, New York, the daughter of Estelle (née Rapaport) and Morris K. Bauer, both of whom were attorneys and had a law practice together.[1] Her family is Jewish.[2] Brothers graduated from Far Rockaway High School in Far Rockaway, Queens in 1943.[3] She earned her PhD degree in psychology from Columbia University after completing her undergraduate work at Cornell University. She married Dr. Milton Brothers, an internist, in 1949, and they had a daughter, Lisa. Milton Brothers died of cancer in 1989.

Joyce Brothers is a resident of Fort Lee, New Jersey.

Career

Brothers gained fame in late 1955 by winning The $64,000 Question game show, on which she appeared as an expert in the subject area of boxing. Originally, she had not planned to have boxing as her topic, but the sponsors suggested it, and she agreed. A voracious reader, she studied every reference book about boxing that she could find; she would later tell reporters that it was thanks to her good memory that she assimilated so much material and answered even the most difficult questions.[4] In 1959, allegations that the quiz shows were rigged began to surface and stirred controversy. Despite these claims, Brothers insisted that she had never cheated, nor had she ever been given any answers to questions in advance. Subsequent investigations verified her assertions that she had won honestly.[5] Her success on "The $64,000 Question" earned Brothers a chance to be the color commentator for CBS during the boxing match between Carmen Basilio and Sugar Ray Robinson. She was said to be the first woman to ever be a boxing commentator.[6]

By August 1958, she was given her own TV show on a New York station, but her topic was not sports; she began doing an advice show about relationships, during which she answered questions from the audience.[7] She would later claim that she had been the first television psychologist, explaining to the Washington Post that "...I invented media psychology. I was the first. The founding mother."[8] She went on to explain how what she did on TV was unique for its time. The '50s were a very conservative era, and she was answering questions from viewers about subjects that were still considered taboo, such as impotence or menopause. Sponsors were nervous about whether a TV psychologist could succeed, she recalled, but viewers expressed their gratitude for her show, telling her she was giving them information they couldn't get elsewhere. She went on to do syndicated advice shows on both TV and radio, during a broadcasting career that has lasted more than four decades. Her shows went through a number of name changes over the years, from "The Dr. Joyce Brothers Show" to "Consult Dr. Brothers" to "Tell Me, Dr. Brothers" to "Ask Dr. Brothers" to "Living Easy with Dr. Joyce Brothers." But by whatever name, her audience found her a valuable resource, and she became an iconic figure, the TV psychologist whose name everyone seemed to know.[9]

In addition to her radio and TV work, Brothers is also a prolific writer. She had a monthly column in Good Housekeeping magazine for almost four decades, and a syndicated newspaper column that she began writing in the 1970s, and which at its height was printed in more than 300 newspapers.[9][10] She has published several best-selling books, including the 1982 "What Every Woman Should Know About Men," and a 1992 book called "Widowed," inspired by the loss of her husband; the book offered practical advice for widows and widowers, helping them to cope with their grief and create a new life for themselves. Today, Brothers continues to do guest appearances on television and radio talk shows.

In addition to being called upon for her expertise in psychology, she also has done comedic cameo appearances, including on such TV shows as Ellery Queen, Mama's Family, Taxi, Happy Days, Police Squad, The Naked Gun: From the Files of Police Squad!, Police Woman, Night Court, The Nanny, Frasier, The Andy Dick Show, The Tonight Show starring Johnny Carson, One Life to Live, WKRP in Cincinnati, Mickey Spillane's Mike Hammer, Mr. Belvedere, Married... with Children, Entourage, The Simpsons, All That, Kenan & Kel, The Steve Harvey Show, Melrose Place, The Lonely Guy, Space Ghost Coast to Coast and Late Night with Conan O'Brien. She has also appeared as an occasional celebrity guest on game shows such as Match Game, the 1968 revival of What's My Line?, The Gong Show and Hollywood Squares. She also appeared in a Sunday strip of the comic strip Blondie, where she was referred to by Dagwood Bumstead as "Brother Joyce Doctors". Brothers was the ninth most frequent guest on the Tonight Show when Carson retired.

As a psychologist, Brothers has been licensed in New York since 1958.[11] In December, 2009, Brothers was still appearing on television; currently in commercials endorsing a home alert monitor.

References

  1. ^ Joyce Brothers Biography (1927-)
  2. ^ Joyce Brothers
  3. ^ Weinberg, Sydney Stahl. Joyce Brothers, Jewish Virtual Library. Accessed August 20, 2007. "After graduating from Far Rockaway High School in 1943, she entered Cornell University, majoring in psychology. She was a member of the Sigma Delta Tau sorority."
  4. ^ "Quiz Winner Credits Memory for Success." Christian Science Monitor, 14 October 1959, p. 6
  5. ^ "The Quiz Show Scandal" website
  6. ^ "CBS Radio to Give Male Fan Assist in Airing Basilio, Robinson Fight." Hartford Courant, 25 March 1958, p. 18A
  7. ^ John Crosby. "'Sis' Series Looks Good." Hartford Courant, 3 August 1958, p. 6.
  8. ^ Henry Allen. "The Mother of Media Psychology." Washington Post, 14 December 1989, p. B1.
  9. ^ a b Paley Center for Media website
  10. ^ "Joyce Brothers' Column to Be Daily." Chicago Tribune, 7 September 1974, p. 7.
  11. ^ New York License verification record

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Quotes

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When you come right down to it, the secret of having it all is loving it all.

Dr. Joyce Brothers (born 20 September 1928) is a family psychologist, author, and advice columnist; born Joyce Diane Bauer.

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  • Marriage is not just spiritual communion and passionate embraces; marriage is also three meals a day, sharing the workload and remembering to carry out the trash.
    • "When Your Husband's Affection Cools" in Good Housekeeping (May 1972)
  • Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.
    • "When Your Husband's Affection Cools" in Good Housekeeping (May 1972)
  • I don’t give advice. I can’t tell anybody what to do. Instead I say this is what we know about this problem at this time. And here are the consequences of these actions.
    • American Way (1979)
  • Don’t fool yourself that you are going to have it all. You are not. Psychologically, having it all is not even a valid concept. The marvelous thing about human beings is that we are perpetually reaching for the stars. The more we have, the more we want. And for this reason, we never have it all.
    • The Successful Woman : How You Can Have a Career, a Husband, and a Family — and Not Feel Guilty About It (1988), p. 18
  • Trust your hunches... Hunches are usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level. Warning! Do not confuse your hunches with wishful thinking. This is the road to disaster.
    • As quoted in Words of Wisdom : More Good Advice (1990) edited by William Safire and Leonard Safir, p. 199
    • Variant: Trust your hunches. They're usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.
      Trust your hunches. Hunches are usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level. But be warned, don't confuse hunches with wishful thinking.
  • In each of us are places where we have never gone. Only by pressing the limits do you ever find them.
    • As quoted in Say It Right : A Guide To Effective Oral Business Presentations (1994) by Garth A. Hanson, Kaye T. Hanson and Ted D. Stoddard
  • When you look at your life the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.
    • As quoted in Three Hundred and Twenty-Five Prompts for Personal Journals (1995) by James A. Senn, p. 44
  • When you come right down to it, the secret of having it all is loving it all.
    • As quoted in Anything Is Possible: Humor and Wisdom for Success and Prosperity (1997) by Meiji Stewart, p. 73
  • No matter how much pressure you feel at work, if you could find ways to relax for at least five minutes every hour, you'd be more productive.
    • As quoted in Succeeding Sane : Making Room for Joy in a Crazy World (1998) by Bonnie St. John Deane, p. 122
  • We control fifty percent of a relationship. We influence one hundred percent of it.
    • As quoted in Letting Go of Debt : Growing Richer One Day at a Time (2000) by Karen Casanova, p. 17
  • If Shakespeare had to go on an author tour to promote Romeo and Juliet, he never would have written Macbeth.
    • As quoted in The Shakespeare Book of Lists : The Ultimate Guide to the Bard, His Plays, and How They'Ve Been Interpreted (And Misinterpreted) Through the Ages (2001) by Michael Lomonico
  • The best proof of love is trust.
    • As quoted in Chicken Soup for the Gardener's Soul : 101 Stories to Sow Seeds of Love, Hope and Laughter' (2001) by Jack Canfield, p. 25
  • Before your dreams can come true, you have to have those dreams.
    • As quoted in Bursting at the Seams : A Wealth of Wit and Wisdom by, for, and about Women (2004) edited by Killy John and Alie Stibbe
  • Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.
    • As quoted in Courage: The Choice That Makes the Difference (2004) by Dwight GoldWinde, p. 93
  • Being taken for granted can be a compliment. It means that you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life.
    • As quoted in On Being Blonde: Wit and Wisdom from the World's Most Infamous Blondes (2004) by Paula Munier, p. 69
  • Credit buying is much like being drunk. The buzz happens immediately and gives you a lift... The hangover comes the day after.
    • As quoted in On Being Blonde: Wit and Wisdom from the World's Most Infamous Blondes (2004) by Paula Munier, p. 69
  • No matter how love-sick a woman is, she shouldn't take the first pill that comes along.
    • As quoted in On Being Blonde: Wit and Wisdom from the World's Most Infamous Blondes (2004) by Paula Munier, p. 70
  • The world at large does not judge us by who we are and what we know; it judges us by what we have.
    • As quoted in On Being Blonde: Wit and Wisdom from the World's Most Infamous Blondes (2004) by Paula Munier, p. 70
  • Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.
    • As quoted in The Pocket Philosopher/ Psychologist (2004) by Mark J. Merten, p. 87
  • The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the top.
    • As quoted in Business Class : Etiquette Essentials for Success at Work (2005) by Jacqueline Whitmore, p. 25
  • An individual's self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.
    • As quoted in Wisdom for the Soul: Five Millennia of Prescriptions for Spiritual Healing (2006) by Larry Chang, p. 43
  • Those who have easy, cheerful attitudes tend to be happier than those with less pleasant temperaments, regardless of money, "making it", or success.
    • As quoted in Wisdom for the Soul: Five Millennia of Prescriptions for Spiritual Healing (2006) by Larry Chang, p. 71
  • Accept that all of us can be hurt, that all of us can — and surely will at times — fail. Other vulnerabilities, like being embarrassed or risking love, can be terrifying, too. I think we should follow a simple rule: if we can take the worst, take the risk.
    • As quoted in Wisdom for the Soul: Five Millennia of Prescriptions for Spiritual Healing (2006) by Larry Chang, p. 415
  • Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery.
    • As quoted in Wisdom for the Soul: Five Millennia of Prescriptions for Spiritual Healing (2006) by Larry Chang, p. 469
  • If your energy is as boundless as your ambition, total commitment may be a way of life you should seriously consider.
    • As quoted in It's All About You: Live the Life You Crave (2007) by Mary Goulet and Heather Reider

10 Keys to a Strong Family (2002)

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  • "Our family comes first" Strong families support each other's dreams; they sacrifice to show support. A friend turned down a company trip to the Bahamas so he could attend his son's championship soccer game. "the beach will always be there," he said, "but my son won't always be 14 and team captain." this "family first" attitude begins with a bond of loyalty between marital partners. But single-parent families (28% of all families with children, according to the latest census) can be just as successful in raising strong children if they develop a "family first" attitude.
  • Strong families use the word "we" a lot, but "I" is never forgotten. Family members know they have the freedom to go off on their own, even if the direction is one that "we" have never followed before. The family message is, "We're behind you, so you can be you."
  • While parents are naturally in a leadership role, strong families strive to share decision-making. They resolve differences by respecting other viewpoints and accepting compromise solutions. One family decided to spend money on a son's music lessons rather than replace worn carpeting. The compromise was to pitch in and clean the carpet. In another family, everyone but the youngest daughter loved to ski. They rented a vacation condo with plenty of activities for the daughter, and the skiers accepted an hour's drive to the slopes.
  • In strong families, positive strokes out-number negative broadsides by a wide margin. Members regularly express appreciation: "Thanks for fixing the drainpipe." "You look so nice in that dress." "The dinner was great." Criticism is offered gently. After all, strong families figure, if we can be kind to strangers, why not to one another?
  • "We treat each other well" In strong families, positive strokes outnumber negative broadsides by a wide margin. Members regularly express appreciation: "Thanks for fixing the drainpipe." "you look so nice in that dress." "The dinner was great" Criticism is offered gently. After all, strong families figure, if we can be kind to strangers, why not to one another.
  • Strong families value their extended family, particularly grandparents. In one study of college students, a majority thought their interactions with grandparents reflected high family strengths. It’s important to create continuity between generations, passing along traditions and making roots ever stronger, so the tree continues to reach for the sun.
  • Religious belief, trust, a sense of connection to the universe — no matter what you call it, there is a spiritual component to strong families. They see their lives as imbued with purpose, reflected in the things they do for one another and the community. Small problems provide a chance to grow; large ones are a lesson in courage. A mother whose son died of a brain tumor bravely returned to the hospital where he had died in order to set up a research fund. When she saw the parents of children who currently were suffering, she told her son’s doctor: "If any research you do produces any advance, my son’s passing won’t have been totally without purpose." It takes a certain type of spiritual grace to see beyond one’s own misery to the needs of others. Strong families try to live so they can look outward — and inward — every single day.

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