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A lovemap is a concept originated by John Money to assist a
discussion of why people like what they enjoy sexually and
erotically. According to Money, it is "a developmental
representation or template in the mind and in the brain depicting
the idealized lover and the idealized program of sexual and erotic
activity projected in imagery or actually engaged in with that
According to Money, the word lovemap was first used in
1980 in an article entitled: “Pairbonding and Limerence”. Before
this time, as he states, Money began to talk about lovemaps, in
precursory form, with his students in lectures.
Money describes the formation of an individual's lovemap as
similar to the acquirement of a native language, in that it bears
the mark of his or her own unique individuality, similar to an
accent in a spoken language. A lovemap is usually quite specific as
to details of the physiognomy, build, race, and color of the ideal
lover, not to mention temperament, manner, etc. Since its
inception, the concept of “love maps”, applied to interpersonal relationships, has found apt
acceptance and is frequently referenced in love / relationship /
sexual-evolution theory books; as for example in Wilson and
McLaughlin’s 2001 The Science of Love.
In "Gay, Straight, and In-Between: The Sexology of Erotic
Orientation," Money (1988: 127-128) suggests that love is like a
Rorschach (ink blot) test, where if projections (shaped by a
body/mind's lovemap) on the other are mutual, pair-bonding occurs,
typically in a courtship phase of mating.
- Heterosexual lovemaps – love
mappings associative to persons of the opposite gender.
- Homosexual lovemaps – love
mappings associative to persons of the same gender.
- Vandalized lovemaps – is when the love mapping
process or neurological template development stage becomes
traumatized, as when a young child is either exposed to, or forced
to participate in such inappropriate behaviors as pedophilia, incest, or
sexual sado-masochism. Such a lovemap is typically formed between
the ages of two to eight. A vandalized lovemap is often an atypical
lovemaps – when lust is attached to fantasies and
practices that are socially forbidden, disapproved, ridiculed, or
penalized; sometimes as the result of residual imprinted memories
from certain traumatic or unusual episodes from early childhood, or
sometimes the result of various physiological anomalies such as the
presence of a micropenis, a chromosomal abnormality (45,
X/46, XY), or of accelerated growth (premature
- Native lovemap - by analogy with native
language, is a lovemap that is assimilated as one's own personal,
inalienable possession, regardless of how many of its attributes
are shared, or not shared by others.
- Klismaphilic lovemap – specifies
both in fantasy and performance that the person’s sexual and erotic
will be aroused, and orgasm achieved, only if the partner
participates in a scenario of administering an enema.
- Acrotomophilic lovemap –
specifies a paraphilia of the stigmatic/eligibilic type in which
sexual and erotic arousal and facilitation of attainment of orgasm
are responsive to, and dependent upon a partner who is an amputee,
or in extreme cases a thalidomide baby who has reached
lovemap – specifies a paraphilia of the
stigmatic/eligibilic type in which sexual and erotic arousal and
facilitation of attainment of orgasm are responsive to, and
dependent upon engaging in cross-species sexual activities, that
is, with an animal.
Money, John (1986). Love Maps -
Clinical Concepts of Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology,
Paraphilia, and Gender Transpostition in Childhood, Adolescence,
and Maturity. New York: Prometheus Books. ISBN
Wilson, G.D. & McLaughlin, C.
(2001). The Science of Love. Great Britain: Fusion Press.
- Money, John. Gay, Straight, and In-Between: The Sexology of
Erotic Orientation. New York: Oxford University Press, 1988.