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Patti Stanger (born May 31, 1961) is an American matchmaker with her own Bravo TV show called The Millionaire Matchmaker.



Early career

Prior to founding her business, Stanger, worked as the Director of Marketing for Great Expectations, the largest and oldest dating service in the United States.[citation needed] Great Expectations has since been sued by several states for consumer fraud[1][2] and by two individuals for overcharging.[3] Stanger claims to be a third-generation [[matchmaking|matchmaker]. . Stanger was introduced to the fashion industry by Janis Spindel, who had hired and scouted her at the age of 24 when looking to cast the part of a loud-mouthed tramp for a sitcom pilot.[4]. She worked for ten years in the fashion industry at Union Bay Sportswear; Jou Jou Jeans; and Saks Fifth Avenue.[5]



Millionaire's Club

In 2000, Stanger felt that successful men in the dating arena needed a private, exclusive club where they could come to find their beautiful and intelligent wives. However, that proved to be too difficult a job for Patti, so she set up the Millionaire's Club, where finances are not checked and the claim of being a millionaire is sufficient. Introduction services in the new millennium were, after all, her website stated, "still only for the dateless and desperate, and were increasingly unacceptable and sleazy."[6] Membership fees are $25,000/year for male millionaires, $50,000/year for female millionaires and $10,000/year for transexual millionaires.[7]


Millionaire Matchmaker

In 2008, Stanger signed a deal to have her own reality show called "Millionaire Matchmaker" on the Bravo TV Network. Not only does Stanger star in the program but she also produces the show.[8]

" The hour-long show follows her matchmaking at Millionaire's Club. Each episode features her matchmaking two millionaires and occasionally a millionaire and a millionairess. First they submit a tiny biographical sketch on a DVD, similar to that of any Jeopardy contestant on-air bio, and describe the type of partner they want. Stanger then meets them individually to tell them why what they think they want isn't really what they need. She advises her clients and their potential matches before they meet each other including makeover advice, which always focuses entirely on appearance. The girls are encouraged to show cleavage and wear high heels, although women who are better endowed than she is are advised to "tone it down, sista. You look like a tramp." Patti instructs girls with curly hair to blow their hair out and use a flat iron, as she says men like hair they can grab onto, and she is apparently under the illusion that all women should look more like her. Both men and women alike are violated with a spray tan hose if Stanger feels their complexion is fairer than hers. She's been called "The Simon Cowell of Dating,"[9] and makes very quick, very direct, brutally disgusting comments. "I am not paid to hide my true feelings," she said. Her 'casting calls' or "recruiting sessions" where she screens women can be brutal. She told one girl she had a beautiful face but couldn't meet her millionaire because she was 10-15 lbs overweight. "I can't do much for women over 45," Stanger said in an interview, implying she can't do much for herself either, "and if they're overweight, it's almost impossible."[10]

" The millionaires and 30-40 girls first meet at a cocktail party she hosts called a "VIP mixer," which is eerily similar to the nightmare dances we all endured in school. The men choose their top two girls and have ten-minute "mini dates," or strained, superficial conversations with each one. After making no progress at getting to know either girl a little better, they pick one. Stanger announces the choices to the group, and then the millionaires set up their "master dates."

" The Millionaire's Club has a few rules, including millionaires cannot discuss sex or trade phone numbers at the mixer. "No sex on the first date," or at any other time if the couple is not in an "exclusive, committed, monogamous relationship." Of course Patti knows this is going to happen anyway, but the rules keep her from hearing about it. If any millionaires misbehave in any way on the date or afterward, Stanger berates them on the phone or in her office at the end of the show, making sure the scenes and conversations are captured on camera. Sometimes they are kicked out of the Club, but not if Patti still thinks she can make some money off them. She also continually claims that men in Los Angeles, where her show and business are based, are lazy and therefore not the "hunter type" when it comes to dating. Stanger has repeatedly mentioned on the show she is getting extra credit in heaven for her matchmaking work, although viewers of the show will note that no one has seen it "work" yet.

" In the introduction to each show Stanger previously claimed a 99% success rate, yet the Millionaire Matchmaker website revealed it is just under 80% ("nearly 4 out of 5") Nonetheless, most of the couples featured on the show never see each other again according to the show's epilogues.


Two episodes of "Millionaire Matchmaker" had Stanger matching two gay men, and one shows her interviewing transgender persons as potenital matches. Additionally, an upcoming show will feature a lesbian client. All of these nontraditional dating situations allow Stanger endless opportunities to ask new rude and inappropriately personal questions of the participants. If they show any hesitation in answering, Patti accuses them of not seriously wanting to find the loves of their lives. In the words of one recent contestant, "I did want to find my soul mate. But I also wanted to pour salt on Patti and watch her shrivel up like a slug so badly I could taste it."


In April 2009, Patti Stanger was tapped by Clear Channel subsidiary Premiere Radio Networks to host a 4-week special titled P.S. I Love You for XM Satellite Radio[11]. The live call-in program was simulcast on Clear Channel owned MIX channel 22 and The Pink Channel on channel 24 Sunday evenings. After a month hiatus, the program was returned to the schedule on a semi-regular basis, until it was moved to Thursday evenings in July 2009 and made a permanent fixture[12]. Stanger continues to host P.S. I Love You on Thursday nights from 4 PM to 6 PM Pacific time on both Mix and The Pink Channel.


Personal life

Patti Stanger grew up in Short Hills, NJ, but now lives in Los Angeles, CA.[13] She is Jewish. She received a Bachelor's of Fine Arts from the University of Miami in 1983.

Since 2003 Stanger has been dating Andy Friedman, a real-estate executive; they met through a matchmaker. Confronted on one episode by a woman about her match-making despite being single, Stanger became upset but countered that she promises love, not marriage. "My boyfriend's name is Andy," Stanger said on another episode. "We've talked about marriage, but right now I'm really focused on my career and building my business." She has said Friedman has complained to her that she isn't available to him enough emotionally and physically. She has also claimed Mr. Friedman has showed her a ring and that they've "talked about it," but she is still not married. Stanger has compared herself to Oprah Winfrey, who has been in a long-term, committed relationship but never married. On July 22, 2009, announced that Andy proposed to Patti Stanger on May 31, her birthday. Patti wants to be married this year. Andy does not. There has been no decided date yet.


Stanger's first book on dating was published in 2009. It is entitled "Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate."

In the new season she says that her book was based on her "marrige"


  1. ^ Arizona sues Great Expectations [1]
  2. ^ Pennsylvania sues Great Expectations [2]
  3. ^ Court Finds Great Expectations, Low Results for Online Dating Service's Users[3]
  4. ^ Janis Spindel, interview for blog, Bridgehampton, New York, Aug. 2009.
  5. ^ Patti's Bio from [4]
  6. ^ Patti's Bio from [5]
  7. ^ Millionaire's Club[6]
  8. ^ Patti's IMDb [7]
  9. ^ Elizabeth Hanauer, "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire?" LA City Beat. [8] Accessed June 7, 2009.
  10. ^ Ann Johnson, "Millionaires Club Dating: Want to Marry a Millionaire?" Hilary magazine [9] Accessed June 7, 2009.
  11. ^ Premiere Radio Networks Debuts Satellite Radio Special Hosted by Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger. 2009-04-17.
  12. ^ P.S. I Love You with "Millionaire Matchmaker" Patti Stanger Moves to Thursday Nights on XM. 2009-07-28.
  13. ^ "The View," Feb. 12, 2009

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